A lot people, at least once each decade after turning twenty, take the time to reflect and take stock of their lives. Most of those people will discover that while they are generally happy with their lives, there are always some things that they find, that they will regret.
Could some of these regrets be caused by simple excuses? Excuses such as not getting fit because of not having time, not owning a business because of being afraid to fail, not asking someone out because they are out of their league, and others.
There are plenty of more excuses that we can come up with that will keep us from doing what we need to do. There are also ways to combat these excuses, even while they’re still in your head, before they actually start to negatively affect your life.
#1 Being Afraid
You know those tell tale feelings. Stomach in knots, heart racing, palms getting sweaty, voice shaking, those are all symptoms of fear, or panic. They usually appear right before you have to give a speech in front of a crowd, or before you face something when you don’t know what the out come will be.
It has been said that fear is simply False Evidence Appearing Real, and Franklin D Roosevelt said “the only thing you have to fear is fear it self”. So what does all this mean in layman’s terms? Basically it means that all you have to afraid of is being to afraid to try, or not doing something because you were to afraid to.
So go ahead give that speech, no one has ever died of stage fright, and the people aren’t going to throw things, laugh at, or walk out on you. And even if they did, what would it hurt? You will be the better person for facing a hard situation head on, and doing what needed to be done anyway.
#2 Having No Time
Another of the biggest excuses that is usually used for anything that hasn’t been done yet, is the cop out that there is no time. No time to work out, no time to start that new business that we always wanted to, no time to play with the kids, no time to watch that movie with your sweetie, no time at all. But is that actually true?
Let’s break this down. There are twenty four hours in a day, out of that we spend eight to nine hours sleeping, which leaves us with about fifteen hours. Figure in eight to ten hours for working, and that still leaves us with about five hours.
How you spend those hours is up to you. Some people may want to spend some time with the family, some may want to use those hours to work out, or spend time in prayer, or work on that business. Whatever you decide to do with them, can you honestly keep telling your self that you have no time?
#3. Not Being Good Enough
Still another excuse that is often used, is the expression that we are not good enough to do certain things. We aren’t convinced that we are good enough to write that book, design that office, prepare that report, or fill in the blank.
But how do we know unless we actually try, If we do take the time to do something new, most people will not criticize and tear you down for it. They will actually applaud you for trying something new, and encourage you to keep doing so. So next time you think, that you’re not good enough, fight that feeling and do it anyway.
#4. Not Following Through
Besides the other excuses that we have already looked, another popular excuse we use, is the question why should I start this, I’ve never finishing anything before? But wouldn’t the better question be “why haven’t you seen things through?” Is it because you fell back on one of the previous excuses?
Or perhaps you gave up too soon, before you had a chance to see any results. Sometimes we bite off more than we can chew, or are trying to do too much at one time. Somethings can only be done if they are taken a little bit at a time. You might not be able to organize your office in a day, so why not start with a drawer or file?
Breaking that big project into manageable pieces, will prove that you are able to finish things after all. You just have to believe in yourself, and don’t stress out or give up if you can’t do everything at once. As James Crawford, a motivational health and business speaker once asked, “how do you eat a watermelon?” The answer, “one slice at a time.”
The next time you start to use any of these excuses, think about what you’re saying to, and about yourself. Are you really saying you have no time, or that you don’t want to do something? Do you believe that you won’t follow through, or are you afraid that you will be bored in the middle of the project?
Be honest with yourself and others. If you don’t want to do something, say no. If you are afraid, do it anyway. If you think you have no time, turn off the TV, Facebook, and Twitter, and get-r-done. If you don’t think you are good enough, take the time to do your best on it anyway. If you don’t think you’ll follow through, plow through, and persevere on one small project.
Stop letting these four excuses stop you from doing what you need to do. And the next time you want to use one of these, just don’t do it, and you’ll be glad you didn’t.
Blessings, Peace, And Success!